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Exploring the Kivin Method of Cunnilingus

Those in the swingers lifestyle may have heard of this specialized method of cunnilingus called the Kivin Method. While it sounds very scientific, this act is actually relatively simple to perform and even simpler to enjoy. Here’s how to include Kivin cunnilingus in your next sexual escapade.

Warming Her Up

Have the female position herself comfortably with her legs open. Warm her up with generous soft kisses and suckles around her inner thighs, her tummy and near the vagina teasingly but not touching it yet. As she grows more aroused, begin using your tongue and lips to slowly massage the vagina until she is ‘ready’ for action.

Assume the Position

Once she’s warmed up, position yourself perpendicular to her body with your head placed around the target zone. Place two fingers on each side of the clitoral hood, and run your tongue slowly back and forth taking time to hit the top and underside of the hood. Essentially, you are giving her a sideways cunnilingus experience at this time, but things will really heat up during the next step of the Kivin Method.

The Kivin Twist

Here’s where things get interesting and intense. Use a finger or the flat of the thumb to apply pressure on her perineum. This is the approximately one-inch area of skin between the vagina and the anus. This is the same area where pressure is applied during non-penetrating prostrate stimulation, so it’s a powerful stimulator for the sphincter muscles. Women can often experience greater heights of pleasure and a deeper orgasm due to the connection the Kivin Method provides between the clit and the perineum.

Essentially, keep licking, kissing and applying the Kivin Method until she orgasms and/or asks you to stop. As an optional positioning, some couples have the woman curl her legs up to the chest while the secondary partner holds their legs in place while performing the Kevin Method. This allows for a wider spread and easier access to the perineum to boost pleasure levels.

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5 TIPS ON HOW TO PERFORM ORAL SEX ON A WOMAN

5 Tips On How To Perform Oral Sex On A Woman

From LifeStyle Magazine Mike Hatcher some times gets tongue tied on my articles, but one thing I never get tongue tied is with oral sex on a woman. Oral sex is something that the vast majority of women love to have done to them, but of course it is only good if the man knows how to do it correctly. What follows are five simple tips that you should consider trying to put into good use the next time you are performing this sex act on your partner because there READ MORE

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5 Tips for Performing Oral Sex On a Man

Learning how to give a great blow job comes along with experience, and no two men are going to particularly enjoy exactly the same techniques—something those in the swinging lifestyle …

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Prostate Milking 101: How to Give Him A Mind Boggling Prostate Massage

Prostate milking is the process of gently massaging the prostate gland with the goal of ‘milking’ the lucky male recipient’s semen. Many men who’ve experience prostate milking claim that it provides the most incredible orgasm they’ve every had. However, there are health benefits of prostate massages, including its ability to lessen chances for developing prostate cancer. Between the health benefits and the pleasure factor, let’s explore the method of prostate milking.

How to Massage the Prostate Gland Step by Step

While achieving the goal is easier with a partner, this can be a solo act with a bit of clever maneuvering. However, we’ll write this guide from a partner’s perspective, but the general steps are the same regardless.

Step #1:  Get Prepared — It’s a good idea for the receiving male to have a bowel movement sometime recently prior to prostate milking, and if a finger will be used for the massage clipping the nails and cleaning the hands first are essential.

Step #2:  Assume the Position — There are three primary positions the male can consider that are conducive for prostate milking: on his back spread eagle, doggy style or lying on his side (recommended for solo prostate massages).

Step #3:  Lubricate — Whether using a prostate massaging toy or a finger, lubricate the insertion ‘tool’ and the anus generously.

Step #4:  Go for the Glory — Gently insert the device or finger slowly into the rectum with a focus on the belly button side of his body. Once inside, feel for the prostate, which is about 2-3 inches in and feels like a squishy walnut.

Step #5:  Massage Tips — Lightly massage around the prostate’s edges in a circular motion using the fingertip or device. Take care not to be ‘rough’ on the center of the prostate, as this is a super sensitive zone. Continue massaging, building up speed and pressure slowly until he ejaculates.

Walla! The recipient has just had the ultimate, mind-blowing orgasm.

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WHY WOMEN PREFER ANAL SEX

Learn why women nowadays prefer anal sex. Sexual practices and preferences, likes and dislikes can be quite amusing, unique and downright bizarre for various groups of people. It would be impossible to put all sexual desires and practices in…

Top 5 Anal Foreplay Tips

Sexual pleasure is very important to both partners. It not only help to strengthen the relationship but it also strengthen the bond between the partners. To many people, anal…READ MORE

ANAL SEX STORIES AND ANAL FOREPLAY TIPS

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Several people have wrote in looking for the best anal sex stories and wanting tips on how to have anal sex and anal sex foreplay. The best anal sex stories believe it or not are actually found on Swinglifestyle.com. After searching online I have found and included the best articles on anal sex and anal sex tips that you should bookmark below the stories. Enjoy the three top Anal Sex Stories below and don’t forget to scroll down to Anal foreplay tips and a beginners guide on anal sex. Top READ MORE

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Top Benefits of Swinging For Sex Positive Couples

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Despite being more prevalent in pop culture, swinging still remains a mysterious lifestyle that seems more like fiction than reality to the average person. However, sex positive couples can benefit tremendously from the swinging lifestyle. From increased trust to a heightened sensual experience, swinging can be a great addition to a healthy and stable relationship. If you’re thinking about swinging and wish to discuss it with your partner, be sure to mention these top benefits of swinging for sex positive couples!

Heightened Trust and Pleasure

Swinging requires a lot of trust and honest conversation to work, and even the act of talking about swinging can tremendously enhance a relationship. Sex positive couples who embark on their journey in the lifestyle must get used to difficult and personal conversations, and this can even help to bring up deep-rooted fantasies to the surface. Along with a sense of heightened trust, partners can experience more pleasure together as they learn new techniques and positions from their partners. Together, this creates a well-rounded relationship that goes beyond what most monogamous couples will ever experience.

Safely Living Out Fantasies

Cheating is a natural urge yet remains one of the most harmful actions a person can make in a relationship. However, when sex positive couples choose to swing and follow their own guidelines, they can enjoy their sexual urges without harming the relationship or their partner’s trust. Of course, swinging partners must set and stick with their boundaries, and it’s still possible to cheat while swinging should one partner lie or go beyond the preset boundaries.

The Ultimate Freedom

Many monogamous partners often wonder what sex is like with other people, but they may not wish to jeopardize their relationship to experience it. This can create a common dilemma where one partner feels sexually unfulfilled and then brings this negativity into other aspects of the relationship. For couples in the lifestyle who enjoy casual sex outside of their relationship, both partners can be rest assured that there are no lingering feelings of “what if?” This creates a healthier sexual bond along with benefits for nearly all other aspects of the relationship.

Life is full of new experiences, and swinging allows sex positive couples to experience them all without problems. It provides the freedom of free-love while also cultivating the primary relationship through unique shared experiences and broadened horizons. Sex positive couples everywhere should have a deep conversation to see if swinging is right for them. If it’s not, that’s perfectly okay too. But for those ready to open a new door, swinging is sure to provide endless possibilities for pleasure and growth!

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3 Reasons To Start Swinging In A Relationship

swingLifeStyle.com There are many people who look swinging in a relationship as a healthy sexual and recreational practice. It is also popularly known as wife swapping or partner swapping. People …

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REVEALED: 3 BENEFITS OF GROUP SEX

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Did you know that there are actual benefits from group sex? In this article it is Revealed: 3 Benefits Of Group Sex   Introduction Needless to say, group sex is a topic that is under constant dispute. This is because in many places, having sex with multiple partners in one setting is considered taboo. However, engaging in such sexual acts does have its advantages. Below, we take a look at 3 benefits of group sex as follows: Great pleasure There are numerous things that one should consider before arriving at the READ MORE

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Sexual Adventures at Your Local Swingers Club

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Every swingers club is different, but all of them focus on providing a safe environment where you can freely explore your sexuality. If this is your first time at a swingers clubs, it’s important to research the local clubs in your area to find out the one that’s right for you.

Swingers clubs are open to couples and single females. Some clubs will allow single male on a specific night or accompanied by a couple.  These clubs require that you become a member and pay an annual membership fee in addition to an entry fee. This helps weed out people from outside of the community who merely wish to watch and not engage, and it also helps to protect everyone in the club.

What to Expect in a Swingers Club

BDSM (Bondage – S&M or Sadism & Masochism) – Some clubs have a BDSM culture, while others will have it as a theme night. Bondage is a sexual fetish where restraints are used, sometimes a DOM or Dominatrix will administer discipline while other times there are
dungeons, people getting flogged, whipped, caned, spanked etc.

Closed Door Swinging – There are designated areas in an on premise swing club where the playrooms are located. These playrooms can be used for closed door swinging where couples can partake in sexual intercourse with other couples. This can include full swap or soft swap couples looking for privacy.

Double Penetration (DP) – This practice is where sexual partners are willing to engage in sexual intercourse, one in the vaginal cavity and another in the anal cavity at the same time. This can take place in a close door setting or in an open door setting if the couples don’t mind being watched.

Exhibitionism – Couples engage in sexual activity while others watch them for their own sexual pleasures.

Group Room – This is where the orgies happen. This is where the foursome and more-some happen.

Voyeurism – Couples watching others having sexual intercourse for their own pleasures.

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Many people imagine swingers clubs as being extravagant orgies where you can fulfill every sexual desire without repercussions. While this can certainly happen, it’s best to enter the club with more realistic expectations. If you’re going with a partner, it’s likely that you’ll start the night off by yourselves before meeting others. Feel free to fool around with your partner, and if a couple you like makes a move, then you have easy access to a foursome or more.

Depending on the layout of the club, you may start off by relaxing on a couch that can seat two or more. If you continue to engage with more people, you may be able to move off to a more secluded area that features larger couches, beds, or even props. This may be a private room that you have to reserve, or it may be a free-for-all where anyone can join. Depending on the atmosphere, joining an orgy can be as easy as asking permission and getting in bed. It all Depends on your comfort zone and desires, you can expect anything from kissing multiple new partners to oral sex, handjobs, fondling, and sex.

Swingers clubs usually get more sexualized throughout the night, and they may turn into full-blown orgies if the chemistry is right and the ambiance encourages it. However, you’ll still have to make the same small-talk and introductions that you would at any other event. Luckily, everyone is at the club for the same reason as you, and that’s for having a fun and safe sexual adventure. So whether you’re going alone or with a partner, keep your expectations realistic, put on a friendly face, and allow the night to unfold naturally to have the best experience possible. Once you find the right swingers club, you’ll  want to return for more!
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Should You Trick Your Wife Into Going To A Swingers Club?

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Have you been thinking about gong to a swingers club? This is an event you have been planning for months, perhaps even years. For your twelfth wedding anniversary, which is quickly approaching, you promised your bride a very special evening out that she will long remember. You were married not long after she graduated high school and you and your wife have been a couple for 14 years now. She had a very religious upbringing and has only been with one single man in her life — you. You and Read More

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What is a G Spot and Does it Exist?

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There are a lot of myths and misinformation out there about the G spot and whether or not it exists. The G spot, named after Dr. Gräfenberg, the ob-gyn credited with discovering this spot in the 1980s, is definitely a real spot in the body and exists. However, there is a lot of misinformation because it is different in every woman. Here is some information you may want to know if you are questioning whether the G spot exists.

Its Location Varies in Women

One reason why people question whether the G spot exists or not is because it not a definable sexual organ. You can define a penis or vagina and these parts are easily identifiable and located in the same spot on men and women. The G spot is an area near the front vaginal wall that is made up of tissue matter. In many women, the area is sensitive and can begin to swell when they are turned on or when the area is touched or rubbed, just like the clitoris. However, the front vaginal wall is fairly long and the positioning of these tissues can vary in women. Some have a larger G spot, while others is smaller. For many women, the G spot is something that they stumble across, rather than locate. If you are trying to locate yours, get yourself turned on and then insert a finger or two into your vagina. Lightly feel around and rub. When you are rubbing on something that feels good, it may swell or enlarge. This is your G spot.

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The Sensitivity Varies in Women

Another reason why people question whether the G spot exists or not is because it doesn’t have the same affect on all women. The sensitivity of a G spot can vary drastically from one woman to the next. In some women, it simply feels nice or good to have the G spot rubbed or touched. In other women, it can send them over the edge and result in orgasm. It is not realistic to think every women will reach orgasm through G spot stimulation. Some can, while some can’t. There is nothing wrong with you if you can and nothing wrong with if you cannot.

Sex, either with yourself or with a partner, should be something that you enjoy, not something that you stress out or worry about. Exploring different angles, positions and even using sex toys can help you figure out what feels best to you and what may lead you to orgasm. Instead of focusing on finding the G spot specifically, play around and learn what excites you and turns you on. If your G spot is sensitive, you will eventually find it, or find something else that feels just as good to you.

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About Tantra: Best Advice For Tantric Sexual Activities

If you want to be a good swinger, then you need to master sex with your partner first! Learn about tantra and the best advice for tantric sexual activities…

THE 12 TYPES OF ORGASMS — WHAT THEY ARE & HOW TO HAVE THEM

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There have been several myths and facts about orgasms, the later not taken seriously. Everyone deserves a good orgasm every time they have sex. An orgasm, for a newbie can READ MORE

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Defining Your Sexuality in the Alternative Lifestyle

There is more to sexuality than sex and one’s sexual orientation. Sexuality goes beyond the scope set by these two factors. It includes our gender identity (if we are male or female) and our gender roles which are the perceptions of how we should behave as either male or female. Sexuality is also defined by how we feel about our bodies, our ability to build healthy relationships, our sexual experiences and fantasies.

In recent times, the media, friends, family, and religion have formed the basis of defining sexuality. However, we can all agree that their definitions have not always been fair and are based on stereotypes. The true definition of one’s sexuality can only be made by the individual and how they choose to express their sexual affiliations to the public.

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Defining your sexuality in an alternative lifestyle is a multidimensional approach. It involves transcending the boundaries set by society and expressing your sexual confidence in a different perspective without judgement. That is why a lot of people turn to alternative lifestyle websites. There they are able to connect with other like minded people and are free to express themselves without ridicule.  The results could be amazing and could truly be the foundation of having healthy relationships.

On these sites, you are connected with a community of others who share common interests. The community participation widens your scope of interaction. Community participation activities which include discussions on forums and groups as well as face to face interactions at local meet and greets where you get to meet more people from these activities and engage more. These engagements will allow  you to understand your attractions better that is which sex you are attracted to more and why. At this juncture, you can draw tentative conclusions regarding your sexuality, which will be instrumental in your future relationships.

Defining your sexuality is sometimes an uphill task; however, if you expose yourself to alternative scenarios it is possible to draw a conclusion on your sexuality.

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THE BIZARRE WORLD OF EXTREME CUCKOLDING

Want to learn about The Bizarre World of Extreme Cuckolding ? Extreme Cuckolding is one of the most bizarre kind of fetishes you will ever hear. Most people find it even difficult to believe that it exists in reality,…

THE BENEFITS OF LIFESTYLE SITES LIKE SLS

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SwingLifeStyle is an online community that allows people of the lifestyle to connect with others in a safe and secure environment. It is also a great place to find compatible partners for you to explore your sexuality. If you are active in the lifestyle and looking for an alternative relationship, Then SwingLifeStyle is the site for you. They are currently the number one lifestyle website in the US and offer a user-friendly website with a high success rate and features that facilitate those looking for sexual adventures. If you are   READ MORE

Enlightening And Educative Details About The Benefits Of Bondage (BDSM)

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Learn the Enlightening And Educative Details About The Benefits Of Bondage (BDSM). Bondage (BDSM) is becoming increasingly popular amongst many couples. This is mainly attributed to the fact that more couples are understanding its benefits. The couples who practice bondage are no longer termed to be immoral. Instead, they are nowadays considered to be daring and open minded. Here are some of the primary benefits of BDSM.

Enhances better communication

Couples who practice BDSM are able to communicate more effectively. Such couples are open with each other in different aspects of life for they know the sexual desires of each other. The couples are open to discussing almost anything for they have no secrets between them. This is an important aspect of any relationship because many relationships fail because there is no proper communication.

Increases intimacy

Practicing bondage is a perfect way of being sexually adventurous. Therefore, a couple that practices bondage increases intimacy consequently spicing the relationship. With bondage couples are able to move away from the monotonous ways of intimacy. These monotonous ways usually make the relationships boring for the couples get bored from doing the same thing over and over again. But with BDSM couples are able to experiment and such couples usually look forward to the intimate times.

Makes partners more faithful

Couples who practice bondage are more unlikely to cheat. This is mainly because bondage creates extra ordinary trust. When trust is improved the couples feel that they do not need to cheat for they are enjoying what they are getting from their partners. The couples usually do not have the courage to cheat for if they go to another person it will be hard to tell the person to practice BDSM. Furthermore, the partners feel obligated to stay faithful so as to encourage their partners to remain faithful.

Reduces anxiety

The couples who enjoy BDSM are also less likely to suffer from stress and anxiety. This is primarily because such couples feel that they are loved and as a result get more self esteem. With increased self esteem the couples are able to solve different issues in a more efficient manner. The fact that such couples share a lot of their issues plays a significant role in reducing stress. In addition the couples get to work out different issues together and this ensures the issues are solved fast.

Improves general health

BDSM is more demanding than ordinary ways of enjoying intimacy. As a result, the couples who practice bondage get to be more physical. This is an important aspect because being physical exercises the body and this can contribute even in weight loss. Therefore, the number of couples spicing their relationships through practicing bondage has been increasing steadily because more people are understanding the various benefits of bondage.

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Alpha males are preferred to have sex with and breed the wife in cuckolding

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Curious as to why a married woman wants to breed with an alpha male? In order to understand why a married woman would let an alpha male inseminate her, lets look at the characteristics of the alpha male. A man who has alpha male traits are those who can easily get what they want because of their confidence and also because of their good looks. Often, he is looked upon by his peers to solve problems and to act as a leader that they can follow. Keep in mind though that not all guys like this are admired and liked and here’s why:

Alpha males do not find a need to qualify themselves.

An alpha man is always certain of his actions, and so there is no need for him to explain himself. This is apparent in workplaces where they are expected to make tough decisions every day. They will no longer need to ask approval from anyone for the choices they make, and they won’t care a bit if you won’t consider their decisions. Keep in mind several men that have money and power are nothing but beta males who control women by money. It is a true alpha that breeds these women of these fake betas posing as alphas.

Alpha males also do not need to boast what they have achieved, even if most of these men has a lot of achievements in their life. People who admire they are surrounding most of these men, and they will not bother if none would appreciate them. Their accomplishments are not just some minor things because they are people with very real talents and are highly capable.

An alpha male takes his time when talking.

Alpha males are confident and do not hurry when they speak. He is sure that what he is saying makes sense, so he does not feel the need to talk fast for fear of losing anyone’s attention. This the most good alpha male traits, and that’s the reason why they are often surrounded by lovely girls who loves to listen to their every word.

An alpha male is the primary focus of attention, wherever he goes.

This kind of man does not take second place in anything whether it is in the boardroom, the charity ball or even the casual dinner with friends and family. Wherever they are, they always win the attention of anyone and the people that are around him. They maintain the high level of confidence in them, which a lot of individuals cannot resist, especially that they also have a lot of achievements in life.

A guy is an alpha male when he walks into a room confidently and without looking around. This kind of character of an Alpha male just proves that he does not need to look for someone to know that he is being considered. For him, this is only natural, and he does not feel the need to act like anyone other than himself because being himself has always served him very well.

Becoming a man with alpha male traits can be achieved through several practices and by being positive at all times. Not everyone will like you for it, but it will certainly get you most of the things you want in life especially when it comes to your career and your personal life. Balance it up with a kind heart and a sincere desire to help others, and you should be on your way to great success.

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Swinging, Divorce And Marriage Counseling.

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Swinging relationship has become popular now among couples who are bored and would like to explore. Through explore, that means that they need to try out other people when it comes to sexual relations. Peculiar as that may be, but there are an increasing number of men and women who have come to take this kind of idea given that they want to feel again the thrill, experience, and passion they once had early in their relationships.

Before choosing swinging, there should be a few things that you should consider. In the end, it may become better or worse for husbands and wives later on in their marriage.

First, couples should ask themselves first “Do we need to go to marriage counseling?”. Many couples are actually in denial that their marriage needs some tuning up or else item, Therefore, swinging has become a modern approach to some. If perhaps sexual activity is the problem, then talking about it with the other person even with the occurrence of a marriage counselor might bring about what the trouble is. Perhaps with a mediator, problems can be solved with suggested alternatives how to spice up one’s intimate relationships with each other. Believe it or not marriage counselors are not against swinging relationships.

Although swinging may be an easy way out for many people as well who are having problems with their sex lives, it might spell disaster. It is because with swinging, although individuals who engage in it might say that jealousy can never be out of the picture, it is just purely physical with another person and that there are no strings attached, there is still the weak part of human nature that will succumb to jealousy. A marriage must be strong in order to start swinging. Even some animals who are very territorial get jealous like that of Jaguars who only have one partner in their entire lifetime. And as they say, jealousy kills. Jealousy, after all, is a powerful force that sends a person into a fit of rage.

And before thinking about heading into a swinging relationship, one must consider not the particular benefits but also the repercussions of doing so. Because rather than solving the problem, it may aggravate things even more. Again your marriage must be solid in order to swing.

Sharing couples have a very loving and trusting relationship. They enjoy a satisfying sex life with each other and usually spend quality and quantity of time with each other and their families. They enjoy each other’s company and they sincerely “like” each other. They take care of each other’s needs and wants. They respect each other. The best part is; They TRUST each other completely.  So, before you swing make sure your ducks are in a row and have a stable relationship first.

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Why Monogamous Couples Are Embracing Swinging

monogamy swingingCurious to see Why Monogamous Couples Are Embracing Swinging? Swinging is a term that is used to refer to the practice of engaging in polygamous activities where one has other sexual partners other than the partner they are married to. Most couples these days are having more than one sexual partner. There are many reasons that most of them have put forward as to why they are swinging. One of them stems from trying to rekindle the sparkle of excitement that usually seems to die when people have been married for some time.

Monogamous couples have also started embracing this trend. Most of them think that swinging is a great way of bringing back that thrill in a relationship. These days, swinging is not only limited to the male partners, women are also actively engaging in swinging just as their male counterparts. More and more monogamous couples are seemingly accepting the swinging lifestyle and making it part of their own.

As opposed to what most people think, swinging is not for the struggling couples. As a matter of fact, it is for those couples that have strongly established their love and are even willing to let their partners have some sexual experience beyond their marriage boundaries. For the monogamous couples that are practicing the swinging lifestyle, it means that they love and trust each other to the extent that they are even allowing to have some sexual experience with other partners.

It means that their marriage life is so strongly established that there is no room for insecurity or fear of dishonesty. The good thing about the swinging lifestyle is that it helps solve the issue infidelity. Instead of a partner having extramarital affairs behind their partners back, they are granted the permission to do so. This has in a way helped partners open up to each other about how they feel and why they would want to try out swinging.

Swinging is a big decision for any couple. This is because it might change how the two relate to each other forever. It is therefore very important for any monogamous couple that is thinking about trying it out to have a lengthy discussion. This will help resolve the issues that either of them may have. By agreeing to try it, they will be ready for any consequences that might arise.

Swinging is not for couples that are just bored with their sexual life, it is for those that have mastered their sexuality and totally fulfilled the needs of each other to the extent that they feel they may want to share their sexual experience with other like-minded couples. Again the marriage should at all times come first before the swinging lifestyle.

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