Through careful thought and deliberation, you’ve decided you want to spice up your sex life by inviting a third, even a fourth party into your otherwise two-person bedroom. What you have yet to do is discuss the matter with your spouse, because how do you even go about mentioning such a delicate topic?
The swinging lifestyle is more common than you likely realized, with an estimated 13 million people participating in swinging in the United States alone. If you’re eager to add yourself and your spouse to that esteemed count, then these tips are for you.
1. Skirt the Topic Before Diving Right In
The admission that you want to invite another couple into your sex life can be like a bomb being dropped on your partner. Don’t give them way more to bite off than they can chew right away. Instead, slowly entice them to the thought with small mentions here and there.
Ask questions of your spouse as well. Quiz them on their knowledge and interest in the swinging lifestyle. If there’s little interest, then it’s your job to ignite the spark in them that could have them saying yes to your proposition.
2. Know Thyself and Thy Spouse
Only through a clear, careful inspection into your own sexual likes and dislikes as well as those of your partner can the swinging lifestyle work for you. If there are certain sexual topics you two have shied away from for one reason or another, now’s a good time to bring them into the light.
3. Navigate for Negatives
While the hope and expectation is that your first swinging experience will be exceptional, having an exit plan is always wise. Whether it’s a safe word or a look between you and your spouse, if one of you feels uncomfortable and wants to end the experience, you should be able to, no hurt feelings.
Although entering the swinging lifestyle can be a touchy topic for first-timers, the above three tips will equip you with the poise and approach for a successful start.
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