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Common Sexual Fantasies for Lifestyle Couples

Sexual fantasies are only a dream for many, but one of the perks of being a swinger couple is the ability to fulfill sexual fantasies. While it might seem a bit intimidating at first to make those fantasies reality, there are many ways to share intimacy that don’t necessarily include intercourse (but the best do!)

From sensual massages and group sex situations, to dom/sub play and even heading outdoors for some sexy playtime fun. Let’s explore some of the most common visions that many crave in their sex lives.

Domination and Submission Fantasies

If you’re considering taking your intimate experience to a higher level with a bit of dom/sub play, you will first need to do some homework. Dom/sub play is something you have to discuss beforehand with your play partner. It’s not just something to dive into without having open and honest conversation about your sexual needs, deviant play sessions and safe words.  It’s a great way to explore the dynamics of power and control of the relationship and can involve gentle spankings or more intense play.

While there’s often a more dominant partner and an eager sub, many in the swingers lifestyle enjoy sharing the roles and swapping who’s the boss from time to time. Again, safe fantasies involve solid communication and a good deal of trust.

Getting Closer to Nature and Your Lover in the Great Outdoors

Having sexual intercourse is one of the most natural acts in the world but having public sex is generally illegal. However, you can work around that hindrance with a camping trip or a day visit to a remote location. After all, getting a citation or even worse (arrested) is certainly not likely part of the fantasy.

A grassy field, secluded beach or even on your private property like a cabin or water vessel can certainly be a rewarding place to live out a special fantasy. Make it even more remarkable by inviting others in the swingers lifestyle to join you on this sexual adventure!

Have a Sexy Threesome or Host an Orgasmic Orgy

While some don’t admit it, having sex with another person along with their partners is by far one of the most common sexual fantasies lifestyle couples share. Whether you get off to being an observer or a participator, having a new person in the mix can bring some spice back to a relationship or open doors towards progressing to an alternative lifestyle.

However, it should be noted that the motivation behind the fantasy should be to ensure everyone is pleased. Lack of communication can result in feelings of guilt, jealousy and even anger. Be sure to have set boundaries that you discuss with those involved before plunging into the goodies.

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Still On the Fence? There’s No Rush!

Not everyone actually plans and move forward with fulfilling their sexual fantasies —and that’s okay! Sometimes, just having an imagination and swapping those thoughts with a partner can be enough. That may lead later to consider going to a swingers club or taking a lifestyle cruise where you can simply just watch. The world is your oyster, so you can crack open the shell whenever you choose!

The Joys of the Swingers Lifestyle Threesomes

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HOW TO PREPARE FOR YOUR FIRST GROUP PLAY

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How To Have Safe and Fun Outdoor Sex

Partners don’t necessarily have to be swingers or lifestyle couples to enjoy the wonderful realm of outdoor sex. Communing with Mother Nature while coupling can bring couples and even groups closer together. To get things rolling in the great outdoors, there are a few safety tips and precautions to heed to make the experience one to remember and one you’ll want to repeat time and time again.

Be Prepared for Planned or Spontaneous Outdoor Sex

Not a lot is needed to get it on outside, and what you want to have on hand can easily be stored away in a duffle bag in the closet or trunk of the car for last minute outdoor rendezvous. Here’s what you’ll need.

  • Thick Towel or Blanket
  • Lube
  • Condoms
  • Baby Wipes or Cleanup Rag
  • Extra Clothes (Just in Case!)

Keep those knees, tails, backs and heads protected from pebbles, tree bark, shells and rough ground objects when exploring various sex positions. Bring that blanket, and pack up extra goodies like condoms and close to play it extra safe.

Avoid Probing Eyes, Cameras and Don’t Get Caught!

It’s understandable that some swingers get off at the idea of ‘getting caught’ while having sex. But, this is best left to remain a fantasy, as there can be legal repercussions, personal embarrassment or both. Remember, word gets around fast, especially if charged with lewd conduct officially or a child happens to see you.

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The realities of getting caught by wandering eyes, people that crop up unexpectedly, critter cams or even worse, by law enforcement is the polar opposite of sexy. The law or anyone else can pull up on you quicker than you can get those pants pulled up! Find a safe spot that is rarely frequented or do the do on your own private property.

Some Location Ideas for Outdoor Sex

Some great places to engage in outdoor sex include the woods or a forest with plenty of trees and areas shielded from public view. Just be sure no one can hear you or see you! For a fantastic night under the stars, consider having a bit of romance on a camping trip, where you can take shelter in a cozy tent for cuddling afterwards.

Nearby a lake, river, pond or the beach is a perfect place to feel naturally sensual. The soothing sound of the water trickling or waves adds a sense of serenity to the experience. Adventurous lifestyle couples might get waist or neck deep in the water and dive into the action. Any bystanders will likely think you’re making out or just snuggling up, as they can’t see what goes on beneath the water line. You’ll want to lube up before underwater penetration.

Popular Sex Positions for Outdoor Sex

Assume the position anyway you please, but being outdoors can open up vast opportunities for new positions to achieve new heights of pleasure. Tree hugging is a top choice, just be wary of getting bark or branches in the wrong spots. When in the water, take a koala bear hug position or spoon for backside entry. Campers may try sex in a hammock, which is a feat all in of itself. Open up the outdoors into your sex life, and join Gaia in joyous copulation!

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THE SWINGERS LIFESTYLE TOP 3 SEXUAL FANTASIES EXPLORED

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Having sexual fantasies is completely normal, and exploring them in ‘real life’ might be intimidating for a first time indulger. Some of the most common desires individuals want to fulfill include sensual massages, threesomes, domination and submission play, outdoor sex and making intimate videos. While there are numerous wild and sane fantasies, we’ll address the top three and offer tips to ensure they are fulfilled as ‘safe fantasies.’ 1. Domination and Submission Fantasies Taking an intimate experience to the next level with a bit of sub/dom play is a sexual READ MORE

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Connecting with Lifestyle Couples Via Swinger Chatrooms

Swinger chatrooms are a safe space for lifestyle couples to connect. As the pandemic continues, swingers couples are becoming more eager to connect with other lifestyle couples via online chatrooms. A place where social distancing is the norm, yet real connections can be made that might come to physical fruition when things return to some semblance of normalcy.

Let’s get into how and why connecting in swinger chatrooms is not only best for now, but also for any other time as you seek to connect with like minded people.

Why Choose Swingers Chatrooms?

The truth is, most of us already chat online, whether it be through messages, video or both. After all, it is the best way to make connections with new people and maintain contact with other swingers couples. Even if you are new to chatting with swingers, online sessions are a great way to get to know someone and what to expect should you meet up at some point.

Another great point to consider is that people feel free to communicate open and honestly their personal likes, dislikes and role in the swingers lifestyle on a private forum. Even newbies can become more comfortable with the lifestyle after a few chats helps them realize that they often share common fantasies and fetishes with like-minded individuals. Best of all, if you don’t like what you are hearing or seeing, it’s easy to disconnect or just move into a new chat room.

Find People With Similar Interests: Search Online Chat Rooms

With a few clicks to narrow down your interests, chatrooms let you easily connect with those who have similar proclivities. Most rooms are highly populated, so there are numerous break-off chat rooms dedicated to specific interests, such as:

  • Cuckold
  • Hotwifing
  • Bi-Male/Female
  • Taboo
  • Nudist
  • Transgendered
  • Threesomes
  • Hard/Soft Swapping

You can even start your own topic chat on many sites as well as plan meetings, events, vacations or book hotels for playtime with your new friends.

Moving off the main board and into a private chatroom lets you maintain a greater level of privacy, and only in these rooms should you even consider sharing nudes or any type of personal information. While there are lots of rooms and options, there are some guidelines for participating in chatrooms.

Quick Tips for Wisely Using Swinger Chats

Not a lot of hard-set rules exist, but courtesy and common sense should prevail to ensure participants have a good experience as well as lots of fun. Couples should use swinger chatrooms together when possible. It creates sexy time opportunities as you get turned on by someone else, and you can agree as to whether attraction exists on both sides.

Don’t randomly just start sending nudes without being asked. Use tasteful pics in your profile that are sexy but not over-the-top full on body shots. Leave something to the imagination. Always be respectful and never shame other’s fantasies or their bodies. Most importantly, keep in mind that everyone in the forum is looking for a good time, so play nice now and save some naughty for later.

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Swinger Couples Meet & Greet – First Dates

Finding swinger couples is not an easy task. As such, most couples make their connections online. Before couples decide to make their relationship physical, they go out on a first date, also called a meet and greet with the other couple or single, to ensure that there is chemistry. If you are new to the swingers … Continue reading Swinger Couples Meet & Greet – First Dates

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The Love Languages Applied To A Swingers Relationship

Love languages can be defined as words or actions that convey very specific meanings to each of us, and lifestyle couples definitely rely on strong verbal and physical connections to stay close. Languages in relationships vary, and couples in the lifestyle are no different from the average ‘vanilla’ couple in that aspect.

There are purportedly key ways to express these languages in relationships according to the 1992 best selling book, ‘The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate’ by Gary Chapman.

Let’s explore these aspects and how lifestyle couples can use them daily to express their love and affection for their partner.

Invest In Quality Time

Couples in a relationship want to feel like they are number one in their partner’s life at all times. It is important for each person in the relationship to feel valued. Lifestyle couples tend to craft out time for themselves to connect on a more intimate level.  That means televisions, cell  phones and other distractions are put at bay for a bit every day so couples can spend some quality time together. Let this time be moments to focus only on your chosen mate at the moment. This confirms your dedication and let’s them know you are there for them.

Get On Board With Physical Touch

Hugging, kissing and a mere touch of the hand means the world to a partner in need of touch. Just sitting closely, a nudge or a wave can quantify as physical touch, so there’s no sense in denying the one you care for of these small gestures that don’t cost a cent!

Giving Gifts

Hey, your gift doesn’t have to cost a million dollars to make a big impression on your partner. Love notes, a mix of songs or just making some toast in the morning along with a flower from the lawn means volumes. It’s all about the thought behind the actions that mean the most. This language expresses you ‘know’ your partner and care.

Acts of Service

Driving, cooking and cleaning show care and compassion no matter who you do it for. The act of ‘action’ is one of the best ways to be of service to another and affirm their love is appreciated. Don’t wait until they ask—volunteer! And be there when you are most needed physically, financially, and emotionally.

Words of Affirmation

No one loves pretty words more than you partner and they want to hear them coming from you! Giving verbal affirmation with ‘I love you, and you’re a God/Goddess” just cannot be topped! Compliments and words of love go far in any relationship, and again—they are free!

These love languages are practiced regularly by couples of the lifestyle who shares a deeper connection. Swinger couples are highly committed to ensuring that their bonds continue to grow stronger as they explore their sexual adventures together. Couples don’t come to the lifestyle to save their relationship, but come with an already strong bond that helps to amplify their sexual revolution.

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Swinger Couples Meet & Greet – First Dates

Finding swinger couples is not an easy task. As such, most couples make their connections online. Before couples decide to make their relationship physical, they go out on a first date, also called a meet and greet with the other couple or single, to ensure that there is chemistry. If you are new to the swingers lifestyle, you may be wondering where do couples go to meet other couples for a first date Meet & Greet.

Here are three popular choices. These first dates or meet and greets can take place in places like bars, coffee shops or even your local swing clubs.

Bars

When you are looking to meet up with a swinging couple for the first time, a bar is always a great choice. Some swinger group will host a monthly Meet & Greet at a local bar. There everyone can easily grab a drink or fast bar food while getting to know one another. Unlike a restaurant, you aren’t committed to sitting down and enjoying a long meal, which is perfect in case there is no chemistry.

Coffee Shops

Another place you can set a meet and greet with other lifestyle couples for the first time is at your local coffee shop. Coffee shops are easily accessible and tend to have long hours, making it a convenient choice for most people if you want to keep it super casual. Coffee shops also tend to be quieter than bars, allowing you to hear the other couple speak easier.

Local Swing Clubs

The last common place you can meet with other couples for the first time is at local swing clubs. Most swing clubs have sitting areas where individuals or couples can sit and chat before engaging in any sexual contact. This is a great place to meet up if you are ready to get down to business immediately after meeting, should there be a connection.

If you are turning to the Internet to find other lifestyle couples, you need to be safe. Meeting up with the other couple in a public place before meeting them in a private setting helps to ensure everyone is comfortable, gets along and that the other couple is who they say they are.

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Am I A Swinger?

Swinger News - Am I A Swinger At some point in a relationship, the feeling of intimacy is questioned.  The question that tends to be on one’s mind “Is he/she satisfying me sexually?”  When couples don’t communicate about these issues, it tends to cause a problem in the relationship.  For some couples sexual intimacy is important in maintaining a healthy relationship, while others tend to get intimately irritated with it.   The swinging lifestyle is a type of secret society where one can explore their exotic sexual fantasies.  Couples are able then able to explore and live out these fantasies together.

My partner Tom and I are having trouble in our relationship.  We both had been unfaithful and have ventured out of the relationship to find excitement.  I began doing some research online to see if there was anyway we could fix things before they got any worse.  I was scrolling through a couples articles and came across a forum that spoke about swingers and their experiences.  I became quite interested and came upon a local swingers club’s website.  The website highlighted their events, rules, membership and contact information, so I decided to reach out.  I wasn’t sure what I was looking for or even thinking at the time, but all the same I decided to give it a shot.  I knew that I was looking for something new, an adventure, something my honey and I could experience together.  I was in love with him and wanted to make things better, but we were both missing something in this relationship so I decided to investigate the lifestyle.

I made a phone call and was greeted warmly by the manager that went by the name of Sam.  I introduced myself and explained to him that I was interested in exploring the swinging lifestyle and wondered if he had some time to talk.  After a brief conversation, he told me to stop by the club so we could chat some more and he would show me around and answer any questions I had.  I set up a date to visit him at the club.

Swinger News - Am I A SwingerI nervously approached the building that looked like a regular night club from outside.  When I entered, I was greeted by the warm voice that answered the phone.  “Hi, I’m Sam, welcome.” He said and shook my hand.  “Nice to meet you Sam, I’m Julie,” O replied with a slight grin on my face.  He invited me to have a seat with him so we could discuss what I wanted to know about the lifestyle.  My mind was racing and my eyes were looking all around.  I was still unsure if I had just stepped foot into some type of cult-like experience that I couldn’t walk away from. We spoke about my desires and the issues my partner and I were facing.   He went on to tell me how he got into swinging and how he started the swingers club.  The idea for the club came from nothing more than two friends joking around. He was always a good business man and one night they visited a swingers club.  His friend jokingly said you should start your own sex club and that was something that stuck with him.  After much though and planning, he opened the doors to the club in 2004 and used the internet to get the word out.

He went on to say that the first party was very successful and more than he had hoped for.  He said lots of people tuned up and most of them were out of towners.  We were the only swing club in the area and the nearest one was more than 200 miles away.  “People were genuinely excited to meet and mingle”, he explains. He also pointed out the fact that not every member is in a relationship. There were many married couples, lesbian couples, single men and women at the club that night.

Swinger News - Am I A Swinger He began to ask me a series of questions to determine what I was into and the type of Swinger I would be. He told me that the definition of a swinger is a sexually driven individual who enjoys the act of sex more than the idea of it and lives out their fantasies of multiple partners without cheating.  He went on to say that there were three types of swingers.  There are the hardcore swingers that are open about their involvement in the lifestyle. Then there are the double-life swingers who keep the lifestyle and friends in the lifestyle separate and private. Lastly there were the single swingers.  They include single men; women, gay men that participate in erotic play without a spouse, but they are mostly single women.  He also shared that hardcore and double-Life swingers are in love with their partners and playing in the lifestyle is just an extension to their thriving sexual relationship.  He also added that most of the swingers that attend these parties are parents and professionals within the community.

Before I left, he suggested that I check out a swingers dating website to get a feel for the lifestyle.  I went home and created an account for my partner just to see if we could meet up with a compatible couple.    After trolling the site and with no improvement to my relationship, I had decided to put the lifestyle on the back burner for a while.  To be honest, my relationship was still filled with insecurities and jealousy and swinging from what I was reading would not make it better.  While the idea of having an open relationship is appealing, I don’t think my current relationship is ready for the complexities of the Lifestyle.

Generation Y Swingers

Generation Y Swingers Young swingers are becoming more and more involved with the swinging lifestyle.  According to ABC News couples 20+ years old who are either married or in committed relationship is now opting for an open relationship because they do not believe in monogamy.  Times are a changing and with the advancement of the internet and social media, high profile cheating scandals are becoming more main stream.  Generation Y swingers are considering a more open relationship that sometimes include partner swapping.

A national survey showed that of the American marriages surveyed, roughly half of them someone had cheated.  Other statistics show that cheating among wives in their twenties has increased by about 20% in the last 2 decades and a 45% increase in cheating husbands.  Young couples are becoming more and more aware of these stats and are choosing to engage in an alternative lifestyle.  Younger couples are also marrying at a later age bringing with them some experiences in their new relationship.

Generation Y Swingers The swinging population has pretty much doubled over the years with women being a driving force behind the lifestyle.   They are the ones engaging other couples on the swingers dating websites and setting up meet and greets for themselves and their partner.  At a private upscale swinger’s party, Behind Closed Doors, which is an ultra-exclusive club catering to young people and by invitation only.  Young couples engage in full swap, some soft swap and others fantasies. Some have their own restrictions like no kissing, while others are just there for the experience.  The young people’s view on the lifestyle is that sharing is caring and some get turned on by seeing their partner with someone else.   Most swingers’ party, as with Behind Closed Doors, couples and single ladies are always welcome, but no single men allowed.  Couples say that swinging, not cheating has made them more secure in their relationships.

Famous People in The LifeStyle

Stephen Hawking Visits California Sex Club Swingers have been around for so long that the term “swingers” or “swinging” did not mean to swap sexual partners.   The term “swing” or “swinger” had a different meaning in the 20’s, 30’s and 40’s, so much so, that it was taboo for a woman to be called a swinger.  The term took on a very different meaning in the 60’s and you can read more about that in the online swinger’s magazine.  Mainstream has not accepted the swinging lifestyle, so most people don’t broadcast that they are swingers out of fear of being ostracized by their family and peers.  But, every now and again you hear about a famous person who was a swinger or celebrity couples that embrace the lifestyle.

The most famous swinging couple known to mainstream is Will and Jada Smith.   They have been hounded by the media for years because they are known as active swingers.  There was even a rumor that Will Smith was dating Gabrielle Union while filming Bad Boys II, and Jada didn’t mind.  Shirley MacLaine, a well-known actress, singer, author and activist, opened up to Oprah about her 30 year open marriage that she shared with husband Steve Parker.  Buck Henry, the actor, writer and movie director, was a member of Plato’s Retreat in New York.  We all heard the news about Stephen Hawking, a famous physicist, cosmologist and author, who visited the California swingers club Freedom Acres where he pleasured himself with young naked dancers who performed privately for him.  Then there is the realty star Donn Gunvalson from the Real Housewives of O.C, he and his wife are going through a divorce and we are now learning that he is actually a regular at the same swingers club Stephen Hawkins visited, Freedom Acres in Devore, California.

Robert Heinlein, the science fiction writer who died in 1988 was also a swinger.  I have even read somewhere that Ben Franklin was a swinger and who can forget Hugh Hefner.  Hugh has always had at least 3 girlfriends at a time and has thrown wild, crazy parties and orgies at the playboy mansion.  Do you know of any celebrity couples or famous people then and now who are swingers?  We would love to hear from you.