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Am I A Swinger?

June 22, 2012Swingers Newsdating site, dating website, lifestyle couples, open marriage, partner swapping, swingers, swinging, the lifestyleswingersdotorgadmin

At some point in a relationship, the feeling of intimacy is questioned. The question that tends to be on one’s mind “Is he/she satisfying me sexually?” When couples don’t communicate about these issues, it tends to cause a problem in the relationship. For some couples sexual intimacy is important in maintaining a healthy relationship, while others tend to get intimately irritated with it. The swinging lifestyle is a type of secret society where one can explore their exotic sexual fantasies. Couples are able then able to explore and live out these fantasies together.

My partner Tom and I are having trouble in our relationship. We both had been unfaithful and have ventured out of the relationship to find excitement. I began doing some research online to see if there was anyway we could fix things before they got any worse. I was scrolling through a couples articles and came across a forum that spoke about swingers and their experiences. I became quite interested and came upon a local swingers club’s website. The website highlighted their events, rules, membership and contact information, so I decided to reach out. I wasn’t sure what I was looking for or even thinking at the time, but all the same I decided to give it a shot. I knew that I was looking for something new, an adventure, something my honey and I could experience together. I was in love with him and wanted to make things better, but we were both missing something in this relationship so I decided to investigate the lifestyle.

I made a phone call and was greeted warmly by the manager that went by the name of Sam. I introduced myself and explained to him that I was interested in exploring the swinging lifestyle and wondered if he had some time to talk. After a brief conversation, he told me to stop by the club so we could chat some more and he would show me around and answer any questions I had. I set up a date to visit him at the club.

I nervously approached the building that looked like a regular night club from outside. When I entered, I was greeted by the warm voice that answered the phone. “Hi, I’m Sam, welcome.” He said and shook my hand. “Nice to meet you Sam, I’m Julie,” O replied with a slight grin on my face. He invited me to have a seat with him so we could discuss what I wanted to know about the lifestyle. My mind was racing and my eyes were looking all around. I was still unsure if I had just stepped foot into some type of cult-like experience that I couldn’t walk away from. We spoke about my desires and the issues my partner and I were facing. He went on to tell me how he got into swinging and how he started the swingers club. The idea for the club came from nothing more than two friends joking around. He was always a good business man and one night they visited a swingers club. His friend jokingly said you should start your own sex club and that was something that stuck with him. After much though and planning, he opened the doors to the club in 2004 and used the internet to get the word out.

He went on to say that the first party was very successful and more than he had hoped for. He said lots of people tuned up and most of them were out of towners. We were the only swing club in the area and the nearest one was more than 200 miles away. “People were genuinely excited to meet and mingle”, he explains. He also pointed out the fact that not every member is in a relationship. There were many married couples, lesbian couples, single men and women at the club that night.

He began to ask me a series of questions to determine what I was into and the type of Swinger I would be. He told me that the definition of a swinger is a sexually driven individual who enjoys the act of sex more than the idea of it and lives out their fantasies of multiple partners without cheating. He went on to say that there were three types of swingers. There are the hardcore swingers that are open about their involvement in the lifestyle. Then there are the double-life swingers who keep the lifestyle and friends in the lifestyle separate and private. Lastly there were the single swingers. They include single men; women, gay men that participate in erotic play without a spouse, but they are mostly single women. He also shared that hardcore and double-Life swingers are in love with their partners and playing in the lifestyle is just an extension to their thriving sexual relationship. He also added that most of the swingers that attend these parties are parents and professionals within the community.

Before I left, he suggested that I check out a swingers dating website to get a feel for the lifestyle. I went home and created an account for my partner just to see if we could meet up with a compatible couple. After trolling the site and with no improvement to my relationship, I had decided to put the lifestyle on the back burner for a while. To be honest, my relationship was still filled with insecurities and jealousy and swinging from what I was reading would not make it better. While the idea of having an open relationship is appealing, I don’t think my current relationship is ready for the complexities of the Lifestyle.

Generation Y Swingers

June 4, 2012Swingers Newsgeneration Y swingers, lifestyle couples, swingers, swinging, swinging couples, the lifestyle, young couplesswingersdotorgadmin

Young swingers are becoming more and more involved with the swinging lifestyle. According to ABC News couples 20+ years old who are either married or in committed relationship is now opting for an open relationship because they do not believe in monogamy. Times are a changing and with the advancement of the internet and social media, high profile cheating scandals are becoming more main stream. Generation Y swingers are considering a more open relationship that sometimes include partner swapping.

A national survey showed that of the American marriages surveyed, roughly half of them someone had cheated. Other statistics show that cheating among wives in their twenties has increased by about 20% in the last 2 decades and a 45% increase in cheating husbands. Young couples are becoming more and more aware of these stats and are choosing to engage in an alternative lifestyle. Younger couples are also marrying at a later age bringing with them some experiences in their new relationship.

The swinging population has pretty much doubled over the years with women being a driving force behind the lifestyle. They are the ones engaging other couples on the swingers dating websites and setting up meet and greets for themselves and their partner. At a private upscale swinger’s party, Behind Closed Doors, which is an ultra-exclusive club catering to young people and by invitation only. Young couples engage in full swap, some soft swap and others fantasies. Some have their own restrictions like no kissing, while others are just there for the experience. The young people’s view on the lifestyle is that sharing is caring and some get turned on by seeing their partner with someone else. Most swingers’ party, as with Behind Closed Doors, couples and single ladies are always welcome, but no single men allowed. Couples say that swinging, not cheating has made them more secure in their relationships.

Free Online Swing Magazine

May 10, 2012Swingers Newslifestyle magazine, swing magazine, swingers, swingers magazine, swinging, swinging lifestyle, the lifestyleswingersdotorgadmin

The latest issue of the swinger’s publication, LifeStyle Magazine is now available online. You can download the Spring 2012 digital version free of cost. It’s in PDF format so make sure that you have Adobe Reader. Please be patient and allow time for the magazine to download as it may take a few minutes. If you do not have Adobe Reader, you can download that here.

The new issue covers the best advice on swingers dating, the art of love making, living a healthy lifestyle and much more. Interested in Tantra or Kama Sutra? This issue covers expanding your sexual techniques through bliss states such as tantric sensory foreplay, secrets of the oral arts, Kama Sutra sex positions and other tempting treats. They also feature a new product called Stamizyn, which helps increase sexual performance and stamina. Lifestyle men can try the product for free, just pay shipping and handling. Planning on taking a vacation soon? The swinger’s publication also features hot destinations for a swinger’s vacation, whether you want to take an African Safari or lay out in the sun on a Clothing Optional Cruise. The magazine has great vacation destinations at affordable prices, visit TopLess Travel for more details.

Access past issues of the magazine, or subscribe to receive a hard copy of our next issue coming out this July. Clubs, resorts, conventions and other swinger related events product or service can advertise for FREE if they distribute LifeStyle Magazine. Call 754-300-2436 for details.

Swingers Site Launches Video Sharing Tool

April 26, 2012Swingers Newsdating website, lifestyle website, swingers, swingers website, swinging, swinglifestyle, the lifestyleswingersdotorgadmin

In a press release dated April 22, 2012, one of the top swinger’s website announced that they have added a new video sharing tool for its users. SwingLifeStyle, a leader in the lifestyle, has added a new feature that will allow users to record and share videos with other users without leaving their site. The videos can be shared privately, with the public or stored for your own personal use. Users have the ability to grant access as well as restrict access to other users from viewing videos through their profile.

This new video sharing tool allows for more activity among users, and is real easy to use with just a one click option for recording and file sharing of videos. Just one click to record, one to stop, one to play and another to share your video file. It’s that simply; anyone can use this new tool.

This is in addition to the new video chat feature that they added September 2011. “In the past social sites would use pictures to show someone’s profile, now video is the future and we are using the technology now,” says Mike Hatcher a blogger and active user of SLS.

Famous People in The LifeStyle

April 3, 2012Swingers Newscelebrity swingers, famous swingers, lifestyle couples, open marriage, partner swapping, swingers, swinging, swinging couples, the lifestyleswingersdotorgadmin

Swingers have been around for so long that the term “swingers” or “swinging” did not mean to swap sexual partners. The term “swing” or “swinger” had a different meaning in the 20’s, 30’s and 40’s, so much so, that it was taboo for a woman to be called a swinger. The term took on a very different meaning in the 60’s and you can read more about that in the online swinger’s magazine. Mainstream has not accepted the swinging lifestyle, so most people don’t broadcast that they are swingers out of fear of being ostracized by their family and peers. But, every now and again you hear about a famous person who was a swinger or celebrity couples that embrace the lifestyle.

The most famous swinging couple known to mainstream is Will and Jada Smith. They have been hounded by the media for years because they are known as active swingers. There was even a rumor that Will Smith was dating Gabrielle Union while filming Bad Boys II, and Jada didn’t mind. Shirley MacLaine, a well-known actress, singer, author and activist, opened up to Oprah about her 30 year open marriage that she shared with husband Steve Parker. Buck Henry, the actor, writer and movie director, was a member of Plato’s Retreat in New York. We all heard the news about Stephen Hawking, a famous physicist, cosmologist and author, who visited the California swingers club Freedom Acres where he pleasured himself with young naked dancers who performed privately for him. Then there is the realty star Donn Gunvalson from the Real Housewives of O.C, he and his wife are going through a divorce and we are now learning that he is actually a regular at the same swingers club Stephen Hawkins visited, Freedom Acres in Devore, California.

Robert Heinlein, the science fiction writer who died in 1988 was also a swinger. I have even read somewhere that Ben Franklin was a swinger and who can forget Hugh Hefner. Hugh has always had at least 3 girlfriends at a time and has thrown wild, crazy parties and orgies at the playboy mansion. Do you know of any celebrity couples or famous people then and now who are swingers? We would love to hear from you.

Is porn protected by Copyright Laws?

February 21, 2012Swingers Newsadult industry, porn industry, pornography, swinging lifestyle, the lifestyleswingersdotorgadmin

People across the country are being sued for sharing their pornography with their peers online. Hard Drive Production, a porn studio, is one such company that is going after people they feel is downloading their content illegally and sharing it with others. However, Ms. Liuxia Wong, a California resident, is fighting back. She received a notice from Hard Drive Production alleging that she used her IP address to share the file “Amateur Allure Jen” on BitTorrent on March 28, 2011. The letter stated that they were going to take her to court for $150,000 for copyright infringement, or she can settle with them for $3,400. They also claim that Ms. Wong would still be indicted even if her router was unsecure and someone else uploaded the file on BitTorrent. Ms. Wong has now hired an attorney and is looking to take the matter to court.

In her defense, Ms. Wong and her lawyers are arguing that the movie “Amateur Allure Jen” was not released until April 22, 2011, but they have her sharing the before he actual release date. She is also arguing that porn is not protected by any copyright laws. The Us Constitution defines the purpose of copyright, which is “To promote the Progress of Science and useful Arts, by securing for limited Times to Authors and Inventors the exclusive Right to their respective Writings and Discoveries.” They also noted that an “Early Circuit law in California found that obscene works did not promote the progress of science and the useful arts, and therefore Hard Drive Production’s pornography movies cannot be protected by copyright laws. She also addressed the fact that she can be held liable even if her router was unsecured and it was uploaded by someone else. She is asking the courts not hold her liable for copyright infringement and to rule that Hard Drive Production’s content is not Copyrightable.

Be mindful of your file sharing online. Make sure you are not downloading, uploading or sharing questionable copyrighted materials. You could be the next one that receives a letter from Hard Drive Production. This ruling could affect the adult industry in California, so Hard Drive Production maybe in for a fight. See other cases affecting the California Porn Industry.

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